The Secrets to Connecting in Relationships & Sex with Shan Boodram
Who wants to talk about sex, baby?
My guest on this week’s episode, Shan Boodram, isn’t afraid to talk about sex. Shan’s a Canadian born, LA based dating coach, author and certified sex educator. Her first book was a bestseller and her new book, “The Game Of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” is even more popular.
She’s the most sought-after sex educator online today, educating you about sex toys on Playboy’s Instagram, and also on the reality TV show Too Hot to Handle, where she teaches contestants a yoni puja – a sacred ritual which involves worshipping your own pussy. Go Shan.
With her down-to-earth style and openness, Shan discusses the importance of engaging with your own sexuality. She shares how focusing on this intimate part of yourself leads to more joy, purpose, and pleasure in all areas of your life.
Featured Moment
Shan: Studying sex, love, and relationships has transformed my life in every single plausible way. Learning more about my purpose as a human being, what brings joy to people, how to bring more joy to my body, how to invite more pleasure into my life, has given me such a leg up in every area possible. I want more people to have that, to take this seriously. I know we live in a busy time, there’s a billion things pulling for your attention — but don’t feel like this area is a last resort, you’ll figure out when everything else is good. Figure this area out, and trust me, everything else will come after that.
Show Notes
Shan’s fascination with the human body from a young age
How our family’s perspectives inform how we learn about sex
How Shan realized what she really wanted to do
Laid, her first book, published in 2009, when she was 24 years old
Shan’s philosophy on sex education
Shan turns the tables on Majo, asking about her experiences
The reality check Shan experienced after the release of her first book
The opportunity that prompted her decision to move to the US
Low lights and high lights from her experience in LA
The wager she made with herself that changed her course
Her journey of healing after ending her toxic relationship
How engaging in sexuality can engage your whole self
References
Laid: Young People's Experiences with Sex in an Easy-Access Culture
The Game Of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want
Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality
One Last Thing
My book, Break the Good Girl Myth is now available! The first few weeks of a book’s publication really determines whether it gets picked up by the media and included on reading/bestseller lists, etc. Every single order counts. If I’ve supported you in any way ever through this newsletter or the podcast, it would truly mean so much and be incredibly helpful if you bought the book right now (vs. later). Order the book. Deep thanks to you!