As a private coach, many women come to me with the feeling that there is something more waiting for them. They can't quite put their finger on it.
I started working with Steph because she came to me with this feeling. Steph had the same dynamic tensions many of us have: a desire to create and help others, paired with a desire to obtain a level of prestige through her career. Steph's current job, though prestigious, was not primarily concerned with her creativity or helping others. So she felt like she was missing something.
There are some women who feel clear about this: the way they make money is the way they want to serve and create. They are about full integration. They typically start their own businesses. And there are other women who feel perfectly content making money one way and serving in another. They are about balance and contrast (often analytical in their jobs, creative in their service or art work). I think both paths are equally valuable. A woman can definitely migrate back-and-forth between these two models throughout her life. It's important to examine, however, whether these choices are coming from a place of authenticity or from fear.
It became clear in getting to know Steph that she needed to make peace with the fact that she was content with her day job, even though it didn't satisfy her deeper desires. She just had to find another way to satisfy them.
Steph and I dug into her future and past selves. Her future self was a wise older woman who loved to cook, was classy but warm. She had a beautiful home and attention to detail. When Steph was a child, she loved cooking and making cooking shows. She not only loved teaching people about food, but she loved the aesthetics and beauty of food. We identified that she loves creating beauty and performing. A cooking show was the sweet spot!
Well, Steph's doing it. She comes home from her 9-to-5 and makes awesome cooking videos (check it out). Her day job gives her the stability and investment for her to follow this revived creative passion.
Some of us make money through our callings and some of us don't. Both are equally valuable.
And it turned out that the "something more" Steph had been waiting for, was waiting for her, too.
Comment below this post: What do you believe is waiting for you to give it some expression?
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